We all know those people who proclaim to be the most motivated person alive by ranting about his ambitious plans and goals to everyone. Before they even start executing the work needed, they'll bombard you with the positive outcomes they will attain and feel so excited as if they have already achieved their goal. Having ambition is nothing unique. Everyone has ambitions and probably millions of people have the same as yours. In reality, nobody cares about what comes out of your jaw. Everyone judges the results and not your motivation and the reason behind it. It's like sharing your goal is almost useless and even negative in some cases. Let me explain how.
There are 4 types of people on this planet:
Those who talk about the work and do the work;
Those who talk about the work but don't do the work.;
Those who neither talk about the work nor do the work;
Those who don't talk about the work but do the work;
The most successful people fall under the last category. Instead of ranting about their goals and ambitions, they rather feel better that it is a better option to focus all the energy on producing results and let their results speak for them. They firmly believe that flipping their jaw will not even move them an inch towards their goal. Rather, it will have a negative effect as every relationship and activity that isn't pushing you towards your goal is pulling you away from it.
A research study in 2009 conducted by NYU revealed this secret. 163 people were divided into two groups. They were asked to write down their goals in life. Half of them were asked to announce their goals while the other half kept their goals unrevealed. Then, they were given 45 mins to do the work linked to achieving their goals. But they were told that they had the freedom to stop at any time. The ones who shut their mouth were able to work for the full 45 mins and believed they possessed more energy to work even more further. On the contradictory, the ones who had announced their goals were able to only work for 33 mins on average.
What happens is that when you share your goals with others, you experience a sense of relief and joy. This makes your brain feel that the goal has already been accomplished. This phenomenon is called social reality. Having your goals acknowledged releases feel-good hormones and makes them a part of your identity. This satisfaction that our mind experiences makes us feel demotivated to actually go out and get the work done to achieve our goals as we subconsciously live in the false reality that a great amount of work has already been done. You have to learn to resist the temptations to announce your goals, delay the social gratification that social acknowledgement brings with it, and understand that your mind mistakes the talking for the doing.
Yes, having an accountability partner is very much useful when it comes to sticking to your habits. But you need to pair up with someone who is close to you and will actually help you be fairly accountable and not someone like your friend who doesn't really care for your goals and has other personal stuff going on in his/her own life. Also, make sure you set up accountability for your habits and not the results the habits will produce. This way accountability will work in your favour, as your sharing system will be more focused on the process rather than the goal itself.
So next time reflect twice before you share your goals with others for it may be ruining your future!🤫 Hope you were able to envisage the principle behind sharing your ambitions. Good day💓
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