In our day-to-day lives we compare ourselves so much to others in almost every possible dimension of life. This can be extremely energy-draining and is a HUGE reason for people's unhappiness. Today I'll be explaining three reasons why you should immediately stop this.
1. Stunting of your potential:
When you desire to be better than someone else you set up a ceiling to your potential. Your goal now is not to be the best you can be but just to be better than the other person. This becomes your ultimate goal. Now when you become better than the other person your brain just locks up and perceives that you have achieved enough and stops you from growing further as it feels a sense of satisfaction and fulfillment by being better than the other party because this was what you mainly wanted and set that as you ultimate standard of success. On the flipside, if you seek constant improvement you keep unlocking new levels of potential and cultivate this belief that there is always room for improvement.
2.You disable yourself from the ability to notice real improvements:
Let's say you start your weightlifting journey and initially start doing workouts with 5kg weight. If you increase your capability of weightlifting by 2kgs a week you are realistically growing and improving. But if you compare your self with an elite world-class athlete who lifts more that 200kg your mind isn't going to consider your growth as an improvement because compared to that athlete your growth and capability is relatively much lesser than that person. On the other hand if you compare yourself with someone who is weaker, you will always feel a sense of fake self -superiority and stop seeking for real improvements. In such a scenario you will never be able to help yourself grow and recognize real improvements.
3. It leads to self-criticism:
Honestly, nobody is great at everything. If you are good at one aspect of life there's a good chance you are weak in another. And that's totally fine. But we compare our weak aspect to someone whose strength is great in that aspect and this leads to a self-criticism. We only see the part that people are better at than us and ignore the fact that they have weaknesses too and everyone is different. Now this will surely lead to self-doubt as there is always someone whose strength is your weakness. Avoiding comparison will give you a sense of pride in being your original self and give a boost to your self-esteem and confidence.
Hope this post made you realize how comparison can be like a poison to your happiness. As Bob Marley said, "The day you stop racing ; is the day you win the race." Peace ✌
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